The strangest thing happened to me this morning when I was busy dressing my four-year old Chad-Lee. Of all the things I have to do in the morning which ranges from waking everyone, preparing breakfast and packing lunches the task I dread the most is dressing Chad-Lee who is not a morning person at all.
My aim is usually to dress him fast while he is asleep and then just closing him with the blankets again until its time for the family to leave. It might sound easy, but guess what my friend IT IS NOT. Usually Chad-Lee wakes up and give me one of his dirty looks from the side probably thinking (what are you trying woman) or even (this woman is going down), well I don’t know what these looks mean but the sky is the limit when it comes to Chad-Lee.
At this point I move fast wash him and dress him like Super woman close him and hope he goes back to bed. Ha wishful thinking at this point dressing him becomes a battle. Chad-Lee refuses to let me dress him and wants to be carried on my hip as I move around the house while desperately trying to dress myself. Tired so very tired.
Well this morning was nothing short of amazing. Chad-Lee woke up while I was dressing him gave me a beautiful smile and said to me “Mommy dress Chad”. At this point my eldest son starts laughing and says “Mom are you breathing?” Shocked was my name that moment and not Mom.
I replied to Chad-Lee who was sitting up with his chin in his hand, “Yes boy Mommy is dressing Chad-Lee.” Looking at him I started to wonder what is going through this child’s mind sitting there just pondering with his chin in his hand. Is he thinking about ponies chasing each other or racing cars on a track, what is he thinking. Then he replied “Chad wants porridge and wants to watch a movie in daddy’s arms in bed.”
I promise you shock went to frozen this was the longest sentence Chad-Lee (who has struggled with talking and expressing himself) has ever spoken in front of me. My eldest son starts laughing at the shocked expression on my face (mouth open and all) in the back ground. Chad-Lee got up when he was dressed fetched his porridge on the table and went to the room where my hubby was still laying switched on the television and put his favourite movie on. He then gets into bed and starts eating his porridge while sitting next to my husband.
My husband who just woke up to the song “Do you want to build a snowman” then shouts from the room, “Honey is it time for me too wake up yet and who put the tv on for Chad-Lee. I was standing in the room door shocked out of my mind when Chad-Lee decides to reply to his dad, “no daddy I put the movie and the TV on man.”
At this point a slight sound came out of my mouth I think it sounded like (ha), my eldest son came in the room at that moment and enlightened my husband about the happenings since Chad-Lee woke up, to the point where this amazing four-year old is quietly eating his porridge while looking at me like I am insane.
My husband then turned to Chad-Lee looks at him and replies “you did it my boy, you did something I have tried to do for years, you shocked your mom into silence.”
Chad-Lee burst out laughing like he understood what my husband just said, my word here I have treated him like a baby when this four-year old understood exactly what was going on around him.
I always thought that their minds were filled with colour crayons, cars and so on but meanwhile he just wanted to eat his porridge while watching a movie on mom and dads bed with his dad next to him.
Thought provoking maybe it is time to start backing off and let them follow what they have in their minds. And maybe give them the opportunity to express themselves instead of thinking for them and doing everything for them.
Wow, well tomorrow morning I will let him take the lead and just gently guide him in the right direction.
Four year olds I always thought that they were little drunk people hopping around the house knocking into things and creating havoc as they go along, well until they eventually fall asleep.
Instead I found an intelligent little man who knew exactly what he had to do and even knew what he wanted and how to get it.