How society has changed over the last 100 years. Not so long ago members of the extended family lived in the same street or at least the same town. Nowadays young mums are isolated having moved to distant parts of the UK or even another country. Therefore leaving them apart from other family members and the help and support they would have received.
Not only this but unless new mums are from large families they may not have seen little ones grow up or witnessed bath times, potty training dealing with mealtimes, tantrums, sibling jealousy or discipline and many other day-to-day experiences.
It is no-wonder forums and mother and baby groups have sprung up to try to compensate. Books have been written videos made to alleviate the aloneness and loneliness of new mums.
“Loose Women” the lunchtime ITV program is informative on a variety of issues, especially social situations, and is also fun to watch. They do often bring up baby rearing topics and have several times said how nervous they all were bringing their first-born home.
During the early days when you are probably tired sore and nervous you only have the telephone as a companion. Your mum aunts and cousins are probably miles away and possibly working anyway. Even the girl next door is at work.
Slippery wet babies can be very worrying at bath times and deciding the best way to hold them and keep them safe can be daunting. I few simple tips can make all the difference and boost your confidence plus relax your baby and make life easier.
So when the door shuts and terror sets in you are on your own with your new baby. You are sleep deprived and anxious and you are suddenly horrified you don’t know what to do. This is the same for many mums tackling the baby-blues.
Maybe your plan for breast-feeding isn’t working, your baby is hungry and crying and you cannot get hold of the health visitor for advice. Should you supplement with a bottle?
When baby reaches his first birthday you can congratulate yourself for nurturing this helpless little human for his first year. You are feeling more confident now but know there are many more hurdles ahead. What is this you have heard about taming the tantrums of two-year-olds? Seeing screaming infants dragged along by harassed mothers gives you nightmares.
Will your baby sleep through the night, or will there be tears every bedtime? You have seen your friend coping with her daughter like this. How will you cope with potty training? If you have another child later what about sibling jealousy, will they get on and play together? There are so many things to keep you awake at night.
All I would say is relax and do a bit of reading you will find some great tips! I had my three plus 2 foster children all under 5 years. Yes it was hectic, but rewarding and fun.