Terrible two’s can be a stressful time for all, little children seem to kick off when their mothers are busiest we have all seen the frightful tantrums little children can have often in public places with their poor mothers trying to cope as best they can. Well it happens to us all at times but often it can be prevented. By now your child is developing fast and becoming quite a little character, on good days a bundle of mischief, on bad days a frustrated tornado!
My first child was a very happy placid child but on occasions I could see how frustrated she became. With not enough knowledge or language to fully communicate, but wanting to show her independence. I devised a simple solution that often prevented problems, frustration and conflict.
I started offering 2 choices where it was unimportant to me for example on dressing: “Which arm shall we put in first, the right or the left”? She loved the game, and we both ended up laughing, much better than tears and frustration; she also learnt her left from her right. Asked in a relaxed fun way this can become a game that can be extended into many areas, it is also a teaching opportunity with a solution. The child feels they have some control, which is what they crave at this stage in their development, and the heat is taken out of the conflict. I have since seen this method listed as “choices” as an official parenting method but I came about it by accident, just looking for a solution.
Talking to children whilst shopping is fun for both of you as they get older, It prevents them getting bored and makes your trip easier and more pleasant for everyone. For example “Can you see the tomatoes” or “let’s count 6 carrots”, it only takes moments but makes for happy shopping. Stimulated children are more likely to enjoy shopping trips and less likely to become bored, fretful and have tantrums. It also becomes a learning situation which is an added bonus. If possible don’t make shopping trips when your child is tired or hungry and try to include them in conversation.
I hope these suggestions give you some ideas and make your life and shopping trips more fun. you will see an amazing difference in your child and the cooperation you will get. Your little one will become more engaged and will enjoy shopping and you will find it less stressful.