“ You were provided a best foot and a left foot, not a best foot and an incorrect foot” – Buckminster Fuller
I fricking love that quote!
Point Of View, at the end of the day, is subjective and that’s what this quote reminds me of. Our perspective, our fact, and what we think about personally ideal and wrong.
Oh, and prior to I continue I think it is essential to share that I’m not speaking about the absolute wrongs in this world. Wrongs like racism, racial profiling, discrimination, hate speech and dislike criminal activities, cruelty, abuse … those are guaranteed wrongs.
What I’m talking about is the varying of viewpoints, ideas, concepts, and point of views.
THE REQUIREMENT TO BE RIGHT
That quote also reminds me of that require to be right which I just recently bumped up versus. My own and another person’s.
Not to bore you with the gory details. Let’s just state, I was attempting to convince somebody to see something my method. And given that turn around is fair play, I was likewise on the receiving end of comparable behavior.
And it got me believing …
Why, as people, do we have to be right?
What takes place when we’re wrong?
My response to the question … my ego. It’s my ego that drives that require to be viewed as a value-add, to “preserve one’s honor”, or to be viewed as smart.
And you need to know something funny?
When I’m on the receiving end of someone’s “need to be ideal”, I do not see anything of those things since I’m too pissed off.
” Do not inform me what to believe. Your method isn’t the way for me so stop trying to get me to see it your method. How attempt you discount my thoughts.”
That means there’s a damn good chance I’m not discovering as a value-add or wise. Just bothersome and discounting.
SEEING THINGS THROUGH THE LENS OF RIGHT OR WRONG
The truth is, when I look at things through the lens of right or incorrect, I close myself off from seeing a various point of view. I shut down the opportunity to learn and to grow.
I stay in that location of “it’s my method or the highway” or as a dear good friend and coworker of mine states, I’m “wed to being best”.
And even worse, I put a tight lid on the chance to connect.
SO, WHAT IF …
What if I( we) captivated the idea that there’s a right for me and a right for you? That neither is wrong.
For the sake of clarity, that’s not to say that I have to embrace another individual’s ideas, ideas, viewpoints, or viewpoints. Just be open to listen and to be curious.
I do that when I’m training my customers and some pretty cool things take place.
I remove my ego and listen from my heart.
I produce much deeper connections.
I learn something new about my customers.
I get cool concepts.
And I absolutely prevent being frustrating and discounting.
THE DIFFICULTY & & CALL TO ACTION
So, I’m daring myself to a challenge and I ‘d like the company if you care to join me. For the next 21 days, when I capture myself “requiring to be best” in my individual relationships, I’m going to switch equipments. I’m going to engage my interest and listen open-heartedly (like I do when I’m coaching) and see what cool things I may discover.
Are you with me?
( As originally published on Strolling the Walk Blog)