How things have changed when we look at potty training through the ages…
Going back in time potty training and all its drama didn’t exist. Even today in primitive regions woman carry their children with them all the time and merely hold them out as necessary. Much like childbirth it was a natural happening, nothing out of the ordinary and they were back to work in the fields shortly after giving birth.
However with civilization came the problems, too much thinking from the professionals, Dr Gower, Margaret Mead, Dr Spock to mention a few. The current trend seems to be to leave it until later before attempting toilet training possibly influenced by working mums being pressed for time.
Now there are potty training schools and professionals who will train your child for you. There are 3 day methods 5 day methods and books galore. Apparently “Pampas” and possibly other nappy providers have brought out a range to fit 5 year olds. However this does bring to mind the enormous problem of disposable nappies in landfill. They are not biodegradable in the short-term and sit under the ground for years creating gases; whereas years ago when cotton nappies were the norm, they were laundered and reused.
When I brought up my babies, admittedly I wasn’t going out to work, as I had 5 little ones but I didn’t expect a problem and they were all clean and dry in no time, certainly before the age of two, and night-time by two and a half. I spoke to my sister yesterday to question her experiences with her 3 children. They were all born close together, so she obviously had her hands full but she said they were dry in the daytime by eighteen months and dry at night soon after. Yes I guess we had a few mishaps, for example when children aren’t well, or have an upheaval in their lives they may briefly regress.
When small children are very engrossed in a game or TV they may forget to go to the bathroom, or not want to leave their game; so a reminder is necessary. I was amazed at the number or books and YouTube videos and Google articles available on potty training and read a couple. One was about potty training in 3 days. It sounded so stressful, not letting the child out of your sight for three days, and pestering the child every few minutes with “Tell me when you want potty”. I’m all for occasional reminders, but it was stressful reading it, never mind how the child would feel! The other book offered a far more relaxed approach.
Nowadays with books galore and social media at every turn, new mums appear to feel more stressed about doing things right, and being expected to be a “Supermum”, a working mum, and wife!
Delayed potty training because mums are too bust was confirmed today on the ITV news, research has shown that delays in potty training can lead to bladder or bowel infections and recommended training by 2 years if possible. With that in mind I want to share with you my principles for stress free potty training and some strategies to make your life easier