Early Days, the Baby Blues

It really isn’t surprising that you are feeling a little fragile, is it. Your body has just been through nine months of carrying and nurturing a little human being followed by a strenuous ordeal of bringing him into the world. Your hormones are all over the place, you are probably exhausted, and you have been […]

Early Days, the Baby Blues

It really isn’t surprising that you are feeling a little fragile, is it. Your body has just been through nine months of carrying and nurturing a little human being followed by a strenuous ordeal of bringing him into the world. Your hormones are all over the place, you are probably exhausted, and you have been woken at all hours, no wonder you feel tearful.

It will pass, but if you feel it is a problem or that the baby blues continue your health visitor or doctor will help you. Don’t suffer alone if it continues, you need help or it could spoil the relationship with your husband or stop you bonding with your baby.

Suddenly you can no-longer pop into a shop for more milk or a forgotten birthday card. A big lifestyle change has happened. You have to plan your trips around naps and feeding times. You will adapt to your new way of life and enjoy getting to know and love this vulnerable little newcomer but it will take time to develop a routine. Accept this, and you will learn to love your new life and the amazing joys of parenthood.

Meanwhile welcome any help from your husband or family whilst you are feeling a bit fragile. You may miss your work-mates too, try not to become too isolated keep in touch with your colleagues, I’m sure they would love to see your baby. Also join mother nd baby support groups you will find talking to other mothers helpful; local groups are easy to find online.

Your partner may also be feeling the strain of the new way of life, but he still has to go to work, despite some sleep deprivation. He may also be feeling isolated a bit left out and not sure how he can help. It will take you both a little time to adjust. Be kind and supportive to one another and your relationship will become stronger. Try and see the funny side of little mishaps too and relax.

Now is the time to spoil yourself a little and take advantage of offers of help. Explain what would help you most. It could be some shopping done, the kitchen floor washed or a couple of hours to catch up on sleep whilst your mum sister or a trusted friend cares for your baby. Don’t expect too much of yourself or be hard on yourself. Feeling tired and overwhelmed will pass let others help you

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