I’m so sorry for the ear worm. I really am and if you can get past it, I’ve got a question for you…
How often do you celebrate? If that feels like a strange question, it kind of is, actually. But there’s a method to my madness in asking it.
As a mindset coach and a person who totally geeks out on all things mindset-related, I’ve come to realize how helpful celebrating is when it comes to quieting that inner critic and creating a more positive mindset. And sadly, I don’t think we take much time to celebrate. Yours truly included. Here’s why…
WE ARE MUCH BETTER AT CALLING OUT “THE NEGATIVE”
“The truth is that everything that can be accomplished by showing a person when he’s wrong, ten times as much can be accomplished by showing him where he is right. The reason we don’t do it so often is that it’s more fun to throw a rock through a window than to put in a pane of glass.” – Robert T. Allen
It’s true. We’re much better at pointing out mistakes and flaws then we are at celebrating efforts. (We actually have negative bias to thank for that.)
So, rather than celebrate a project or goal completed, we move from that project or goal to the next. BUT… not without first taking a moment to point out all the things that didn’t work.
WHAT WOULD HAPPEN…
So, what would happen if we were on “high alert” every day for things to celebrate?
Celebrating a lesson learned from a mistake made.
Celebrating taking the high road in a conversation.
Celebrating the parts of a project that worked rather than focusing on the parts that didn’t.
What would be possible?
THE COOL SIDE EFFECTS OF CELEBRATING
To that last question, a lot is possible. Like attitudes shifting, mindsets lifting, perspectives changing because…
The brain can’t think positive and negative at the same time. And celebrating causes a release of all sorts of “feel good” chemicals in our brain. Oh, and did you know that celebrating helps to increase memory?!
Care to experience those side effects and do a little experimenting of your own?
For the next two weeks let’s deliberately celebrate every day. Celebrate the small wins, the cool things that happen, the nice things we do, the lessons learned, the strides taken… let’s just celebrate all the good things.
And if celebrating isn’t something you’ve done outside of birthday parties or anniversaries, here are some ideas to support your celebration efforts.
Create a celebration box. What you’ll need is a small box, like a shoe box that you can decorate (should you wish to) and 14 small pieces of paper. On each piece of paper write down something that you’d consider a special treat. For example, the book you’ve wanted to buy, a special dessert, etc. Fold the papers in half and put them inside the box. At the end of the day, take a piece of paper out of the box and give yourself that special treat in celebration of you!
PM celebration journaling. Before your head hits the pillow at night, take stock of your day and list all the cool things that happened. OR if you’re like me and can’t remember what you had for lunch carry an “Atta Way” notebook with you… a small notebook where you can quickly jot down the cool things so that you can re-read it before bed.
So, on your marks, get set, let’s go celebrate because you, my friend are worth celebrating!!
(As originally published on Walking the Walk Blog)